So many people are in relationships where they have given their power away. Two Scenarios: One: You’ve been abandoned and you’ve given all of your power to the abandoner. Your life rests on whether they call, whether they don’t call. You impotently wait and hope for them to come back because only their return can … read the full article
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© 2020 Susan Anderson The ending of a relationship is a time when friends, family, and sponsors are needed most –to provide direct emotional support. When someone experiences the loss of love, or feels they will never find someone to love, they are in kind of emotional crisis. Your willingness to reach out, listen to … read the full article
Categories: abandonment recovery, Break Ups, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, heartbreak, Relationships
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Are you attached to someone who doesn’t seem as committed as you are? Is there a lack of commitment in the relationship? Maybe they’re giving you double messages, keeping you at arm’s length, or pulling away when you try to get closer. Whatever the signs, your fear of abandonment has been triggered and you want … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Break Ups, Divorce, Falling in love, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, Relationships
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At one of my three-day workshops (at Breitenbush Hot Springs in Oregon – beautiful place!), one of the participants said he played the caretaker role in his relationship. He’d hoped that attending to her needs might insure that she would never want to ever leave him because he’d made himself so very valuable in her … read the full article
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There’s nothing worse than being suddenly beset with intense anxiety and panic. It’s an emotional hijack — a hostile takeover by the fear center of your brain. The part of you that is usually reasonable and self-reassuring has been momentarily knocked out of commission. You feel out of control, helpless, demoralized by the emotional excesses … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Break Ups, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage, ptsd and abandonment, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Sabotage
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AKeRU is a Japanese word that means “to pierce, to end, to begin.” AKeRU is the name I’ve given to the five hands-on mental exercises that turn the pain of an ending into the beginning of positive change. AKeRU makes its debut in both JOURNEY books. AKeRU works with the natural flow of life process, … read the full article
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Future Self is the self we would like to become, the one we have every intention of becoming were it not for our patterns of self-sabotage that get in the way. Future Self is who we are today, except perhaps… thinner richer more spiritually evolved more confident more assertive less co-dependent, less people-pleasing happier more … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Break Ups, Divorce, Falling in love, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, journey from abandonment to healing, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Sabotage
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You don’t need to change something all the way to make a huge difference in your life. You don’t have to go all the way from being codependent to being non-codependent, or from low self-esteem to high self-esteem. You need only to be in the process of improving it – even if progress is slow … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, healing from abandonment, how to overcome self sabotage, Relationships, Self Esteem
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My social media team, who devotedly administrates my pages, suggested that we come up with a list of “best quotes” – bite size insights – that you have strongly responded to. Thank you all for offering thoughtful comments, sharing your personal stories and struggles, and sharing our words with your own family and friends. Live … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, healing from abandonment, how to overcome self sabotage, Self Esteem
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© Susan Anderson December 15 2016 I’ve been developing a profile of an abandoner for almost twenty years, collecting stories and insights from abandonment survivors from all over the world – from people writing to my website and attending my workshops, as well as friends, colleagues, and from my own experiences. Is there a profile … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anorexia, anxiety, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, heartbreak, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Are you and anyone you know caught up in cycles of abandonment? Why do people keep repeating the same patterns over and over? What can they do to break free? One common pattern I call “abandoholism.” You’re alone because you are attracted to the unavailable. When someone comes along who genuinely wants you, you feel … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Falling in love, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage
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Is it possible that abandonment has made you stronger? Most people are familiar with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but what about Post Traumatic Growth? Post Traumatic Growth (PTG) is a concept developed over twenty years ago by professors Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun to identify strengths we pick up from struggling through life’s adversities. When … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, borderline and ptsd, bpd and ptsd, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage, Relationships, Self Esteem
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There’s nothing worse than being suddenly beset with intense anxiety and panic. It’s an emotional hijack — a hostile takeover by the fear center of your brain. The part of you that is usually reasonable and self-reassuring has been momentarily knocked out of commission. You feel out of control, helpless, demoralized by the emotional excesses … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, healing from abandonment, Self Esteem, taming your outer child
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In working with the victims of abandonment trauma, I keep coming across folks who are emotionally anorexic. When people attempt to give them love, they can’t seem to take it in. They rather remain in a state of emotional starvation rather than risk abandonment – their greatest fear. As with almost all conditions, emotional anorexia … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, anorexia, Break Ups, Divorce, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, journey from abandonment to healing, Outer Child, PTSD, Relationships, Self Esteem
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Click here to view recent articles. No matter the circumstances, on some level we blame ourselves when a relationship ends. We take it as a personal failure. The sorrow of heartbreak is not just about loss, but about self doubt. When rejection is involved in the breakup, it triggers primal rage which we turn against ourselves, beating … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, BPD, bpd and ptsd, Break Ups, Divorce, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage, journey from abandonment to healing, Outer Child, post traumatic stress disorder and abandonment, Relationships, Self Esteem
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Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and PTSD of Abandonment There is a significant overlap between borderline personality disorder (BPD) and post traumatic stress disorder of abandonment (PTSD of Abandonment). In attempting to distinguish them, we are met with a lot of fine lines and nebula. Since there is a stigma attached to BPD, defining the difference … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, borderline personality disorder, BPD, bpd and ptsd, Break Ups, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, Outer Child, PTSD, Relationships, taming your outer child
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