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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on April 17, 2020
Susan Anderson © April 2020 We’re learning a lot about ourselves as we’re going through social isolation. We’re in the midst of mass trauma, all-inclusive—affecting all of us—some more harshly than others. The sky is falling and we’ve all run for cover in our huts, waiting for someone to yell “Coast clear.” The … read the full article
Categories: anxiety, COVID-19, Uncategorized
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on February 10, 2020
We managed to make it through the winter holidays so far. Now here come the bright red hearts of Valentine’s Day, and it can be bittersweet. Many people are lonely on Valentine’s Day more alone than they’d like to be, and the imagery of doilies, hearts, kisses, roses, boxes of candy, cards, etc., can drum … read the full article
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on July 16, 2019
Did your lover leave you? Abandonment is a knife wound to the heart. It is highly vulnerable to infection and can leave scarring. Anyone suffering the loss of a love is in a true emotional crisis. Abandonment has its own special kind of grief, as painful as grief over death, and just as enduring. It … read the full article
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on December 15, 2016
© Susan Anderson December 15 2016 I’ve been developing a profile of an abandoner for almost twenty years, collecting stories and insights from abandonment survivors from all over the world – from people writing to my website and attending my workshops, as well as friends, colleagues, and from my own experiences. Is there a profile … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anorexia, anxiety, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, heartbreak, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Posted by Admin on June 22, 2015
The world is full of love-worthy, eligible people looking for a way out of involuntary singleness. They want to put an end to their cycles of abandonment and find a long-term mutual relationship. They are determined to overcome any self-sabotaging patterns that might stand in their way. Some may be attracted to the unavailable. Some tend to … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, Falling in love, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Posted by Admin on February 25, 2015
In looking out for helpful information on behalf of my readers, I’ve come across a few pills. Pills? You mean abandonment pills? For when you’re going through heartbreak and loss? Is there a pill for heartbreak? Well, sort of. People have always wished there could be a magic pill (like a Tylenol for broken heart) … read the full article
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Posted by Admin on February 9, 2015
When something triggers our primal abandonment pain — like a breakup, getting fired or rejected by school admissions, or dissed by a friend — it can be so ferocious and debilitating that we’d do almost anything to get past it. Read more here on Huffington Post! Click here to view recent articles. © Susan Anderson February 9, 2015
Categories: Abandonment, Break Ups, Divorce, Heart Break, Outer Child, Uncategorized
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Posted by Admin on January 15, 2015
There was a report yesterday in the Daily Mail of a swan apparently committing suicide over the death of its mother. The photographs in the article may be open to interpretation, but they drive home the point that grief can be painful stuff and overwhelm us with feelings of inescapable loneliness and hopelessness. Human beings … read the full article
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Posted by Admin on November 5, 2014
Does your Outer Child sabotage your relationships? Your long range goals? Your diet? There are myriad ways we all abandon ourselves by letting Outer Child take control of our lives. Do you forsake your true needs and goals on a daily basis? Some of Outer Child’s self-defeating patterns are aimed at our love-lives; others at … read the full article
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Posted by Admin on March 3, 2014
Overcoming the Trauma of Abandonment Abandonment has its own kind of grief trauma – a powerful grief universal to human beings. The grief can be acute – as when we go through the ending of a relationship, or chronic – as when we feel the impact of earlier losses and disconnection. The natural folds in … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, Break Ups, Divorce, Outer Child, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Posted by Admin on February 25, 2014
Fear of abandonment is the source of human relationships, the source of our self sabotage. It fuels insecurity. But it isn’t fear of abandonment that sabotages our relationships, it’s how we handle it. Fear of abandonment is primal fear – not something we get rid of. It is essential and universal to all human beings, a driving force in … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, BPD, Break Ups, Divorce, Outer Child, Relationships, Uncategorized
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