Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on October 9, 2019
Blaming yourself for your relationship’s failure to thrive is the most painful type of regret. Beating yourself for losing someone’s love is true agony. But more often than not, we do this when we’re dealing with a breakup. People often blame themselves for breakups, believing that their insecurity is what drove their partner away. Another … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, Break Ups, Heart Break
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on August 7, 2019
At one of my three-day workshops (at Breitenbush Hot Springs in Oregon – beautiful place!), one of the participants said he played the caretaker role in his relationship. He’d hoped that attending to her needs might insure that she would never want to ever leave him because he’d made himself so very valuable in her … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, healing from abandonment
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on July 30, 2019
Men are just as vulnerable to the abandonment wound as women. Men have the same reaction; there’s no limit to what men experience. It brings them to their knees the same way it does to a woman. Watch this video to learn more: Transcript: Interviewer: Susan do you feel like men have the same response … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on July 8, 2019
There’s nothing worse than being suddenly beset with intense anxiety and panic. It’s an emotional hijack — a hostile takeover by the fear center of your brain. The part of you that is usually reasonable and self-reassuring has been momentarily knocked out of commission. You feel out of control, helpless, demoralized by the emotional excesses … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Break Ups, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage, ptsd and abandonment, Relationships, Self Esteem, Self Sabotage
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on May 22, 2019
AKeRU is a Japanese word that means “to pierce, to end, to begin.” AKeRU is the name I’ve given to the five hands-on mental exercises that turn the pain of an ending into the beginning of positive change. AKeRU makes its debut in both JOURNEY books. AKeRU works with the natural flow of life process, … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, healing from abandonment, heartbreak
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on May 15, 2019
Do you know someone who stays in a bad relationship? What hooks them? The standard answer is that they don’t feel good enough about themselves. They don’t feel they deserve better. They have a low sense of entitlement. While self esteem is certainly a factor, many of these people started out feeling much better about … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on May 6, 2019
When someone rejects you they acquire power in your mind. They acquire power due to their ability to inflict pain. The more they hurt you the harder it is to let go. This is the painful paradox of abandonment. “Why does it take so long to get over it?” people ask. Those suffering from rejection … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, Break Ups, Divorce, Self Esteem
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on May 3, 2019
Heartbreak hurts so deeply because it pulls at that raw abandonment nerve we all share. It rips us open to the core, overwhelming us with powerful emotions – loss, despair, panic, shame, hopelessness – that seem all out of proportion to the actual event. Fortunately, we don’t have to suffer from abandonment pain for the … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, Relationships, Self Esteem
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on December 15, 2016
© Susan Anderson December 15 2016 I’ve been developing a profile of an abandoner for almost twenty years, collecting stories and insights from abandonment survivors from all over the world – from people writing to my website and attending my workshops, as well as friends, colleagues, and from my own experiences. Is there a profile … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anorexia, anxiety, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, heartbreak, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on November 30, 2016
Healing abandonment involves summoning your creative energy. Your task is to create positive gains from adversity, growth in the place of woundedness. Whether you are struggling through a painful breakup, triggered by childhood issues that impinge in your life, fired from a job, feeling dismissed by a friend, or isolated because you can’t seem to … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on November 4, 2016
The human condition The fear of abandonment is primal and universal to human experience, the crux of the human condition. We all have it. That’s why I write about it so much. Personally and professionally, I’ve discovered that it’s better to deal with our abandonment fear, know when it rears its head, than try to … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment
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