What happens when you’ve loved and lost? Someone writing into my website asked a penetrating, thoughtful question: “Dear Susan, In your chapter on Transcending, we learn about the `Higher Purpose of Love.’ “Is the Higher Purpose of Love, in general, that which is more than just wanting to be loved by someone special?” The answer, … read the full article
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Abandonment vs. the Self Some people want to understand why: Why do they doubt themselves? Why is their self-esteem eroded? Why does it hurt so much to be abandoned? To not be accepted? To feel slighted by a friend? How did this vulnerability set in? What caused it? What keeps it going? The simple answer … read the full article
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Stick to your diet? Have trouble with it? Taming Your Outer Child Slims You Right Down Outer Child is always trying to get immediate gratification, and the most immediately gratifying experience is popping a piece of food in your mouth – you taste and feel it instantly. Taming Your Outer Child has a truly effective program for … read the full article
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Outer Child — your internal nemesis — reacts to stress by falling back on overused, automatic patterns of behavior — kneejerk reactions you have been developing since childhood. They may have helped you cope with various stressors when you were younger, but they bypass the need to think and therefore are not subject to the wiser judgment of … read the full article
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Transcript: It’s now a few decades later, and I have become stronger and more accomplished than I ever would have imagined. And I’ve studied abandonment, of which shame is the cornerstone. And I’ve come to realize that shame is universal. There is a vein of shame that runs deep within the Self–within the abandonment nerve … read the full article
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Get the downloadable version: [email-download-link namefield=”YES” id=”13″] The outer child program explained in Taming Your Outer Child shows you how to propel your life out of depression. Indeed, Outer Child can get stuck in depression, clogging up the works, making it hard to work your way through. The key to recovery is to nourish your Adult Self … read the full article
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Psychotherapist, Susan Anderson, answers the pressing question, “Why do I feel inadequate?” Transcript: I talk a lot about shame in my abandonment workshops because shame is something universal. We all have a vein of shame that runs deep within the self, and anything that comes along that causes us to feel dismissed oroverlooked can trigger … read the full article
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Is your Outer Child a clutterer? Do you want to develop neater habits? Become more orderly? Would you like to purge your home and overstuffed schedule of unnecessary things? This chapter will help you declutter your life. Download the PDF version here. [email-download-link namefield=”YES” id=”8″] If you’re a garden variety clutterer – you might have clothes that need putting … read the full article
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In this interview, I discuss what the primal abandonment wound is, where the shame is stemming from, and overcoming the fear of abandonment. I also share why my abandonment recovery program is different from all the other programs out there. For the transcript, see below. Elizabeth Lock: Hi everybody. I’m Elizabeth and welcome back to … read the full article
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Primal fears seep out of your Childhood abandonment wounds and traumas. Outer Child has a field day acting them out. Download the PDF version here. [email-download-link namefield=”YES” id=”7″] Our current abandonment fears are cumulative, reaching all the way back into our long lost childhoods. The abandonment wound is universal and consists of all of the little … read the full article
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Did your lover leave you? Do you want to know how to get over heartbreak but don’t know where to begin? Abandonment is a knife wound to the heart. It is highly vulnerable to infection and can leave scarring. Download the PDF version. [email-download-link namefield=”YES” id=”6″] Anyone suffering the loss of a love is in … read the full article
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© 2020 Susan Anderson The ending of a relationship is a time when friends, family, and sponsors are needed most –to provide direct emotional support. When someone experiences the loss of love, or feels they will never find someone to love, they are in kind of emotional crisis. Your willingness to reach out, listen to … read the full article
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Susan Anderson © April 2020 We’re learning a lot about ourselves as we’re going through social isolation. We’re in the midst of mass trauma, all-inclusive—affecting all of us—some more harshly than others. The sky is falling and we’ve all run for cover in our huts, waiting for someone to yell “Coast clear.” The … read the full article
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Dealing with isolation during COVID-19 is not the same for everyone. Here in New York, we are self-quarantining, and many are feeling their isolation. I’ve been getting similar feedback from you. Are you self-quarantining? What is it like where you are? How are you doing? How are your loved ones doing? We are all so … read the full article
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We managed to make it through the winter holidays so far. Now here come the bright red hearts of Valentine’s Day, and it can be bittersweet. Many people are lonely on Valentine’s Day more alone than they’d like to be, and the imagery of doilies, hearts, kisses, roses, boxes of candy, cards, etc., can drum … read the full article
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Download the PDF version here: [email-download-link namefield=”YES” id=”12″] We all have shame. It’s part of the human condition. Some of us are more shackled by it than others. We can consider shame to be traumatic when it has an ongoing impact on how we feel about ourselves and function in the world. Shame works silently … read the full article
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Blaming yourself for your relationship’s failure to thrive is the most painful type of regret. Beating yourself for losing someone’s love is true agony. But more often than not, we do this when we’re dealing with a breakup. People often blame themselves for breakups, believing that their insecurity is what drove their partner away. Another … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, Break Ups, Heart Break
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Abandonment Recovery is an innovation in mental health. We are happy to make the methods available to all of you – they make healing possible, not just from a recent heartbreak, but from your old abandonment wounds as well – the ones that have been festering just beneath the surface, eroding your self esteem and interfering … read the full article
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Are you attached to someone who doesn’t seem as committed as you are? Is there a lack of commitment in the relationship? Maybe they’re giving you double messages, keeping you at arm’s length, or pulling away when you try to get closer. Whatever the signs, your fear of abandonment has been triggered and you want … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Break Ups, Divorce, Falling in love, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, Relationships
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I think we’re more vulnerable than we used to be, especially young people whose self image is just forming and are impressionable by what other people think. Transcript: Social media triggers abandonment. You know, that feeling of not having the life that everyone else seems to be having or not being liked as many…as much … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, Self Esteem, Self Sabotage
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Susan Anderson guides you through Five Stages that accompany a loss of love. Decades of research…
How to conquer self-sabotage, self-abandonment, procrastination, overeating, etc. and resolve your relationships
Revolutionary guidebook of step-by-step exercises for healing Heartbreak Loss Abandonment and finding Love. Hands-on help
By reading a simple story you gain deep emotional and spiritual healing. Cleansing Centering Connecting
