Posts belonging to Category abandonment recovery
Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on May 25, 2017
You don’t need to change something all the way to make a huge difference in your life. You don’t have to go all the way from being codependent to being non-codependent, or from low self-esteem to high self-esteem. You need only to be in the process of improving it – even if progress is slow … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, healing from abandonment, how to overcome self sabotage, Relationships, Self Esteem
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on April 10, 2017
My social media team, who devotedly administrates my pages, suggested that we come up with a list of “best quotes” – bite size insights – that you have strongly responded to. Thank you all for offering thoughtful comments, sharing your personal stories and struggles, and sharing our words with your own family and friends. Live … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, healing from abandonment, how to overcome self sabotage, Self Esteem
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on December 15, 2016
© Susan Anderson December 15 2016 I’ve been developing a profile of an abandoner for almost twenty years, collecting stories and insights from abandonment survivors from all over the world – from people writing to my website and attending my workshops, as well as friends, colleagues, and from my own experiences. Is there a profile … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anorexia, anxiety, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, heartbreak, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Posted by Admin on April 17, 2016
For many people, falling in love means becoming more vulnerable. It arouses our primal abandonment fear. It bubbles up from the deep, giving rise to feelings of insecurity that can cause some of us to become needy, clingy, or demanding, and others angry, frozen, or avoidant. To believe that your abandonment issues are blocking you … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, borderline and ptsd, Self Sabotage
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Posted by Admin on December 17, 2015
I’ve written previously about the differences between borderline personality disorder and post traumatic stress disorder of abandonment but here I’d like to explain why distinguishing the two seems important to me. It has to do with the stigma attached to the diagnosis of “borderline.” The two diagnostic categories (BPD and PTSD of Abandonment) have an … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, BPD, bpd and ptsd, post traumatic stress disorder and abandonment, ptsd and abandonment, Relationships, taming your outer child
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Posted by Admin on October 4, 2015
Has it ever occurred to you that love may be staring you in the face, but you just can’t recognize it? Maybe the person is too easily taken for granted, too available, doesn’t push your old insecurity buttons. Or maybe s/he doesn’t match up to some antiquated high school ideal about what a good catch … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Break Ups, Divorce, Falling in love, Outer Child
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Posted by Admin on September 11, 2015
Are you and anyone you know caught up in cycles of abandonment? Why do people keep repeating the same patterns over and over? What can they do to break free? One common pattern I call “abandoholism.” You’re alone because you are attracted to the unavailable. When someone comes along who genuinely wants you, you feel … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, Falling in love, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage
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Posted by Admin on August 17, 2015
Is it possible that abandonment has made you stronger? Most people are familiar with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, but what about Post Traumatic Growth? Post Traumatic Growth (PTG) is a concept developed over twenty years ago by professors Richard Tedeschi and Lawrence Calhoun to identify strengths we pick up from struggling through life’s adversities. When … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, borderline and ptsd, bpd and ptsd, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage, Relationships, Self Esteem
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Posted by Admin on August 6, 2015
There’s nothing worse than being suddenly beset with intense anxiety and panic. It’s an emotional hijack — a hostile takeover by the fear center of your brain. The part of you that is usually reasonable and self-reassuring has been momentarily knocked out of commission. You feel out of control, helpless, demoralized by the emotional excesses … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, anxiety, healing from abandonment, Self Esteem, taming your outer child
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Posted by Admin on June 22, 2015
The world is full of love-worthy, eligible people looking for a way out of involuntary singleness. They want to put an end to their cycles of abandonment and find a long-term mutual relationship. They are determined to overcome any self-sabotaging patterns that might stand in their way. Some may be attracted to the unavailable. Some tend to … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, Falling in love, Relationships, Uncategorized
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Posted by Admin on May 20, 2015
Click here to view recent articles. No matter the circumstances, on some level we blame ourselves when a relationship ends. We take it as a personal failure. The sorrow of heartbreak is not just about loss, but about self doubt. When rejection is involved in the breakup, it triggers primal rage which we turn against ourselves, beating … read the full article
Categories: Abandonment, abandonment recovery, borderline and ptsd, borderline personality disorder, BPD, bpd and ptsd, Break Ups, Divorce, healing from abandonment, Heart Break, how to overcome self sabotage, journey from abandonment to healing, Outer Child, post traumatic stress disorder and abandonment, Relationships, Self Esteem
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Posted by Susan Anderson, Psychotherapist on September 1, 2012
Heartbreak hurts so deeply because it pulls at that raw abandonment nerve we all share. It rips us open to the core, overwhelming us with powerful emotions – loss, despair, panic, shame, hopelessness – that seem all out of proportion to the actual event. Which is why getting over heartbreak is scary in the beginning. … read the full article
Categories: abandonment recovery, Break Ups, Heart Break, heartbreak, Relationships
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