Men are just as vulnerable to the abandonment wound as women. Men have the same reaction; there’s no limit to what men experience. It brings them to their knees the same way it does to a woman.
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Interviewer:
Susan do you feel like men have the same response as women do to abandonment?
Susan Anderson:
Absolutely. Men are just as vulnerable to the abandonment wound as women. Men have the same reaction. There’s no limit to what men experience. It brings them to their knees the same way it does to a woman. If there’s a difference in the socialization between men and women, it might be that women have more outlets, at least in some societies and ours, women tend to be able to talk to their friends and sort of bare their souls; whereas, men may not have as many friends whose ears they can talk off if they go through a breakup.
They might have one or two friends who then get tired of it and tell them just let go, move forward, you know, and forget about it. But women tend to have more tolerance for listening to each other.
But I say tend because I many men are supportive to each other and do hang in for each other and do have support groups. And you know support from other people is so important because men and women are equal in the pain that they go through on the vulnerability that they feel.
You know, some of the things that are different for men and women might also be men are expected to be the ones to take the risk–to be the one to ask somebody out. You know all the gender stereotyping that we have and that can put men in a more vulnerable position. So there might be certain gender-specific areas of greater vulnerability but men are just as vulnerable and if not more so to the social isolation as women.
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