Millions of people are caught up in cycles of abandonment. Why do they keep repeating the same patterns over and over? What can they do to break free?

Self sabotage is the residual of unresolved abandonment. Its lingering insecurity and self doubt cause us to forfeit our long range goals.

You feel the connection at first while you’re pursuing someone. The newness keeps you interested. But as soon as you become sure of them, put up a boundary.

Anxiety overwhelms us when we attempt a new relationship. We feel a painful lack of trust toward any potential partner which causes us to panic and withdraw.

If you’ve been working hard somewhere for any length of time and you get fired, it can precipitate a major emotional crisis – an abandonment crisis – that takes a lot of personal work to rise out of. Here’s what to do.

Also known as “Looking to Trade Up,” the bigger and better syndrome is the scourge of committed relationships.