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Training in Abandonment and Outer Child techniques is experiential. You learn by performing exercises and sharing feedback within a supportive group setting. Susan creates a safe, open, working, life-changing process within the group.
Abandonment Recovery Component: Through training you learn how to:
- Help people through the five stages of abandonment (Shattering, Withdrawal, Internalizing, Rage, and Lifting (SWIRL).
- Practice techniques that heal abandonment survivor’s damaged relationship to self.
- Practice Akeru – a mental exercise program for each stage of the SWIRL process.
- Perform the 12 steps of emotional and spiritual healing.
Outer Child Component:
- Target Outer Child patterns of self sabotage. Outer Child is an overarching concept that encompasses defense mechanisms, character traits, knee-jerk reactions, habits and compulsions – all of your maladaptive behavior patterns.
- Identify Outer’s emotional triggers.
- Connect dots between automatic defenses and primal abandonment fear.
- Learn exercises that redirect attachment energy toward learning healthy new “automatic” behaviors.
- Practice using new power tools to break through obstacles, change behavior patterns, and propel you forward.
Advanced Clinical Training: Through a combination of didactics and experiential training, you:
- Discern acute abandonment crisis from chronic patterns such as mood or anxiety disorders, as well as long standing outer child patterns of self-sabotage.
- Learn new information from neuro-science upon which new treatment approaches are built.
- Distinguish normal (albeit intense) abandonment grief from the onset of major depression.
- Identify acute symptoms of the emotional crisis of abandonment, including:
- Re-emerging symbiotic feelings
- Increased risk-taking
- Neglected self-care
- Need to self-medicate
- Borderline regression and other forms of acting out
- Identify chronic (versus acute) symptoms of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment. In “Journey from Abandonment to Healing (pages 41-42)” I outline a complete list of abandonment’s posttraumatic symptoms, which comprise what I have come to call the “outer child syndrome.”
Outer Child Syndrome:
- Difficulty forming primary relationships
- Poor self-image
- Chronic insecurity
- Help clients work through tendency to get caught up in Outer Child patterns such as abandoholism or abandophobism, or stuck in one the five stages of abandonment grief.
- Deal with the intense transference that our clients exhibit during their abandonment crises including (when their Outer Children are most triggered):
- Over-dependence upon therapist
- Missing appointments
- Unrealistic expectations toward therapeutic process, etc.
- Discern client’s tendency to temporarily revert to default defenses, i.e. becoming over-controlling toward the abandoner, punitive, self-abdicating, and other Outer Child maneuvers.
- Help the still fragile, narcissistically injured abandonment survivor move beyond protest, blame, self-denial, and acting out, and on toward emotional self-reliance, behavioral change, and increased capacity for love.
- Learn effective new tools experientially within the safety and open sharing of a supportive group process.