How to Quell Intense Anxiety and Panic

Click here to view recent articles. There’s nothing worse than being suddenly beset with intense anxiety and panic. It’s an emotional hijack — a hostile takeover by the fear center of your brain. The part of you that is usually reasonable and self-reassuring has been momentarily knocked out of commission. You feel out of control, helpless, demoralized […]

‘The 36 Questions’ for Falling in Love: What Makes Them Work?

Click here to view recent articles. The world is full of love-worthy, eligible people looking for a way out of involuntary singleness. They want to put an end to their cycles of abandonment and find a long-term mutual relationship. They are determined to overcome any self-sabotaging patterns that might stand in their way. Some may be attracted to the […]

Distinguishing Borderline Personality Disorder from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment

© Susan Anderson April 11 2015 Click here to view recent articles. Borderline vs. Abandonment Trauma  There is a significant overlap between borderline personality disorder (BPD) and post traumatic stress disorder of abandonment (PTSD of Abandonment).  In attempting to distinguish them, we are met with a lot of fine lines and nebula.  Since there is a stigma […]

Fear of Abandonment: A Primal Dilemma of Insecurity and 10 Ways to Turn it Around

© Susan Anderson Feb 23 2014 Click here to return to Recent Articles.  Fear of abandonment is the source of human relationships, the source of our self sabotage.  It fuels insecurity.  But it isn’t fear of abandonment that sabotages our relationships, it’s how we handle it.  Fear of abandonment is primal fear – not something we get rid of.   […]

Causes of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment Part Two

Causes of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment Part Two   © Susan Anderson Nov 19 2013 Click here to return to Recent Articles. Part One offered an overview of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment and delineated 30 of its characteristics.  This article discusses (3) causes of PTSD of Abandonment, (5) factors that go into making […]

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder of Abandonment, Part I: An Overview and List of 30 Characteristics

© Susan Anderson November 12 2013 Click here to return to Recent Articles. The intense emotional crisis of abandonment can create a trauma severe enough to leave an emotional imprint on individuals’ psychobiological functioning, affecting their future choices and responses to rejection, loss, or disconnection.  Following an abandonment experience in childhood or adulthood, some people develop a […]


Susan Anderson © November 5, 2013 Click here to return to Recent Articles. Millions of people are caught up in cycles of abandonment. Why do they keep repeating the same patterns over and over and what can they do to break free? One common pattern I call “abandoholism.” You’re alone and unfulfilled because you keep pursuing […]


Susan Anderson © Sept 27 2013 Click here to return to Recent Articles. Self sabotage is the residual of unresolved abandonment.  Its lingering insecurity and self doubt cause us to forfeit our long range goals. What about you?  Do you sabotage your relationships?  Your diet?  Your career?  Your bank account?  These are among the ways, large and […]

Why Does Divorce Create Such Turmoil? (As seen on

© Susan Anderson July 28 2013 Click here to return to Recent Articles. Abandonment is our first fear. It is primal and universal to all human beings. Abandonment is the special element that makes loss of a job, separation, bereavement and divorce so painful. Abandonment is that feeling of being left on the doorstep – of […]

BORDERLINE AND ABANDONMENT Part I What to do and when for Emotional Hijacking: 12 Tasks

© Susan Anderson June 4 2013 Click here to return to Recent Articles. Abandonment creates an emotional crisis of such intensity and duration that it mimics a full blown borderline episode. This has caused many a therapist to diagnose borderline personality disorder (BPD) in many a client in the throes of a painful separation. The emotional volcano […]

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