It isn’t fear of abandonment that sabotages our relationships, it’s how we handle it.
Fear of abandonment is primal fear – not something we get rid of. It is essential and universal to all human beings, a driving force in our connections. It can either interfere in our relationships or reinforce them.
Once we learn how to deal with this primal fear, we access its healing properties.
Feeling attracted to someone triggers this fear. How many times have I heard: “I’m too vulnerable…too insecure to be in a relationship.” Many people complain that abandonment imprisons them behind a wall of their own making. They get caught up in patterns of constant re-abandonment (abandoholism) or avoid relationships altogether to avoid the pain (abandophobism). Others are in a relationship but feel chronic heartache and uncertainty. They’re shrouded in shame for feeling so needy.
There is a way out of these self-isolating patterns. First, what didn’t work:
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By Susan Anderson © 2015
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