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Describe a milestone you've achieved while being on your own-a hidden benefit you've discovered, perhaps?

I hate single life, and I'm not used to it after living with someone for 19 1/2 years and then he leaves me for someone he met on the internet, and now I am hurt and trying to survive being so alone with all of my friends married. Maybe I'll gain strength, but right now, it feels overwhelming

Posted by: The One
9/12/2003

I am not single and haven't been abandoned by my husband, in fact, he's all I've got. I was abandoned by my family and in lieu of their relationships I move about looking for a niche for me to belong and I never feel like I belong so it feels futile... I guess I haven't gained any milestone... I did tear up all the pictures of my family and removed every trace of them from my home. It was very cathartic to cry and rage and tear up the pictures.

Posted by: matilda
7/23/2007

I am doing okay with my single life. I was married for 28 yrs. My husband left me for a 30 yr old woman he had met the week before abandoning me. We have two grown daughters and a six yr old son. It's my son and I at home. I had to be okay for my son so I sought all the support I could within a couple of weeks of my abandonment. I do counseling once a week, I joined a 12 step program, and have begun taking a spiritual journey class at my church. This all began the week of July 4, 2003. I am okay most of the time now, although I have some slips and get really down, they are fewer and far between. It feels good to focus on myself, do what I want, by the foods I like and not be absorbed in his problems. Whatever the reasons for him getting into this relationship I know they are not about me, they are his issues and he needs to deal with whatever it is he is doing and he must face the consequences. I am okay and I will be okay. In the future I will most likely be involved in another relationship but for now I need to take care of myself and my son.

Posted by: Patty
10/3/2003

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